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Stacey's Reading List...


"Tribe of Mentors" by Timothy Ferriss

"Shortcut" by John Pollack 

"Seeing What Others Don't" by Gary Klein

"Several Short Sentences About Writing" by Verlyn Klinkenborg

"The Birkman Method - Your Personality at Work" by Sharon Birkman Fink and Stephanie Capparell

"Creative Intelligence" by Bruce Nussbaum 

"Improv Wisdom" by Patricia Ryan Madson

"Training To Imagine" by Kat Koppett

"Quiet" by Susan Cain

"Where Good Ideas Come From" by Steven Johnson

"A Whole New Mind" by Daniel H. Pink

"Emotional Intelligence" by Daniel Goleman 

"Rework" by Jason Fried and David Heinemeier Hansson  

"The Leadership Pipeline" by Ram Charan, Stephen Drotter, James Noel  

"Life:  Selected Quotations" by Paulo Coelho 

"Deep Change" by Robert Quinn

"The Power of Full Engagement" by Jim Loehr and Tony Schwartz  

"The Way of the Shepherd" by Dr. Kevin Leman and William Pentak  

"Developing the Leader Within You" by John Maxwell  

"Mr. Peabody's Apples" by Madonna

"Orbiting the Giant Hairball" by Gordon MacKenzie




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The stories we tell ourselves...

When a recent life moment left a friend of mine in a rather sticky predicament, he reached out to me for perspective.  Once we unpacked all the emotional elements that typically accompany situations such as this, and logic seeped back into the conversation, I shared a passage with him that has saved me more times then I can possibly count.  

"You're going to have to live with whatever you do (or say) next for the rest of your life.  What you choose to do (or say) is crucial, so think very carefully about who you want to be when you look back on this story."

I ran across this sage advice in a random magazine article years ago, and it is never far from my thoughts when I’m faced with a personal dilemma.  Beyond the reminder to think carefully, it lays the foundation for us to think of our life moments as part of a larger story.  Just about the only thing we are in charge of is who we are in our stories…

I believe there are three stories:  the story you tell others, the story you tell yourself, and the truth.

These are not the same stories, not by a long shot.

The story you tell others is deceptive by nature – you either omit or embellish.  It’s about others seeing you in a way that you want to be seen.  It’s misleading.  Good or bad, still misleading.

The story you tell yourself is for self-preservation.  It’s protective in nature.  It allows you to only be as vulnerable as you can stand.

And the truth is the Truth.  It is what it is.

The next time you’re faced with a life moment, be the person you want to be when you look back on that story.

Which way will you tell it…?  

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