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"Tribe of Mentors" by Timothy Ferriss

"Shortcut" by John Pollack 

"Seeing What Others Don't" by Gary Klein

"Several Short Sentences About Writing" by Verlyn Klinkenborg

"The Birkman Method - Your Personality at Work" by Sharon Birkman Fink and Stephanie Capparell

"Creative Intelligence" by Bruce Nussbaum 

"Improv Wisdom" by Patricia Ryan Madson

"Training To Imagine" by Kat Koppett

"Quiet" by Susan Cain

"Where Good Ideas Come From" by Steven Johnson

"A Whole New Mind" by Daniel H. Pink

"Emotional Intelligence" by Daniel Goleman 

"Rework" by Jason Fried and David Heinemeier Hansson  

"The Leadership Pipeline" by Ram Charan, Stephen Drotter, James Noel  

"Life:  Selected Quotations" by Paulo Coelho 

"Deep Change" by Robert Quinn

"The Power of Full Engagement" by Jim Loehr and Tony Schwartz  

"The Way of the Shepherd" by Dr. Kevin Leman and William Pentak  

"Developing the Leader Within You" by John Maxwell  

"Mr. Peabody's Apples" by Madonna

"Orbiting the Giant Hairball" by Gordon MacKenzie




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Human nature or learned behavior...?

This is not a new phenomenon by any stretch, but lately it seems, at least in my profession, to be growing in popularity.  And it bothers me.

I’m talking about the incessant need to speak negatively about point A in an attempt to highlight point B.

Recently there has been a barrage of negative press on several social media sites regarding a particular personality assessment.  It’s just one of a plethora of personality assessments on the market today.  And yes, some are better than others – depending on your definition of “better”. 

I personally don’t rely on just one assessment when working with my clients.  Some clients have a preference that I need to accommodate, some clients have financial constraints that I need to consider, and some clients request multiple assessments in order to gain the broadest perspective possible.  I’m glad there are assessments that meet all of these needs.  Yes I have a favorite, but that is my personal preference.  And whenever possible, I exalt the virtues of that assessment.  However, I do so without disparaging the others.  In the end, the real value of any assessment is the conversation that takes place.  How we got there is far less relevant. 

In the world of advertising, this has been common practice for a long time.  It’s Coke against Pepsi, 2 Aleve or 6 Tylenol, and Cable versus Direct TV. Usually both products are seen in the same commercial, so the consumer clearly understands which product not to favor.  Again, the winner must be the non-loser.  That seems like a terrible way to get your point across.

If you extrapolate this thinking from consumerism to human connectivity, we’re ultimately teaching people that it’s OK to belittle another’s point (of view) in an attempt to accentuate our own.

In a past life, I had extensive media training on how to respond, under pressure, when confronted with negative public opinion.  The first thing taught was to never repeat negative statements, because doing so drives destructive energy.  Redirect momentum by responding from a positive (or at least neutral) position.

“I like Coke and I like Pepsi.  I just happen to like Coke as a fountain drink and Pepsi from a can.  I take Aleve for muscle aches and Tylenol for a fever.  Cable or Direct TV…?  I’d really rather just read.”

When entering into discussions on competing agenda’s, we don’t have to go to the dark side.  We can choose to respond differently.  It’s as easy as learning to start the conversation by saying “I see it differently.” 

A friend of mine sums it up nicely:  “I believe that the world would be quieter and kinder if we asked ourselves ‘helpful or hurtful?’ before we spoke or wrote anything.”

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I like the idea of responding positively or at least neutrally; thanks for making me think about that.

October 7, 2013 | Unregistered CommenterKelly

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