Guest contributions:

04.22.13  Uncommon Leadership 

04.02.15  Switch and Shift  

05.13.15  Better Practice Team Performance

05.29.15  Better Practice Team Performance

07.08.15  Switch and Shift 

07.14.15  Better Practice Team Performance

10.05.15  Switch and Shift 

Stacey's Reading List...


"Tribe of Mentors" by Timothy Ferriss

"Shortcut" by John Pollack 

"Seeing What Others Don't" by Gary Klein

"Several Short Sentences About Writing" by Verlyn Klinkenborg

"The Birkman Method - Your Personality at Work" by Sharon Birkman Fink and Stephanie Capparell

"Creative Intelligence" by Bruce Nussbaum 

"Improv Wisdom" by Patricia Ryan Madson

"Training To Imagine" by Kat Koppett

"Quiet" by Susan Cain

"Where Good Ideas Come From" by Steven Johnson

"A Whole New Mind" by Daniel H. Pink

"Emotional Intelligence" by Daniel Goleman 

"Rework" by Jason Fried and David Heinemeier Hansson  

"The Leadership Pipeline" by Ram Charan, Stephen Drotter, James Noel  

"Life:  Selected Quotations" by Paulo Coelho 

"Deep Change" by Robert Quinn

"The Power of Full Engagement" by Jim Loehr and Tony Schwartz  

"The Way of the Shepherd" by Dr. Kevin Leman and William Pentak  

"Developing the Leader Within You" by John Maxwell  

"Mr. Peabody's Apples" by Madonna

"Orbiting the Giant Hairball" by Gordon MacKenzie




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Perspective matters...fortunately and unfortunately

Originally published as Guest Commentary in the Northwest Arkansas Business Journal (August 20, 2018)

There’s an improv exercise I love called Fortunately / Unfortunately.  A handful of people stand in a circle and move a storyline forward by adding information as players alternate between fortunately and unfortunately mindset statements.  It might go something like this: 

(Player 1) Fortunately I won the lottery. 

(Player 2) Unfortunately it was only $1,000. 

(Player 3) Fortunately that was enough to throw a big birthday party. 

(Player 4) Unfortunately no one came. 

(Player 5) Fortunately I got to eat all the cake myself. 

(Player 6) Unfortunately it made me sick. 

You get the idea.  After several times around the circle and the story going off on wild tangents – as it always does – there is a fascinating discussion about which position you liked the best:  the fortunately or the unfortunately stance.  This inevitably leads to a broader conversation around how you tend to approach the world – as in more glass-half-full mindset (the fortunately folks) or more glass-half-empty mindset (the unfortunately folks).  Perspective (your unique point of view) tends to play a large role in this conversation.  

Perspective also tends to play a large role in the executive coaching conversations that I have.  Those of us who have done this work for years know that coaching is not about telling people what to do; it’s about giving them a change to examine what they are doing in light of their intentions.  That may sound like a straightforward statement, but I assure you that the act of examining your intentions is anything but straight.  Or forward. 

Our individual intentions are convoluted and messy and based on belief systems years in the making.  And it is those belief systems that create your unique mindset – which is the lens through which you perceive the world.  And the world is a mighty big place.  Or I guess it could be small.  That too depends on your perspective.   

The heart of any coaching engagement lives in the art of that conversation around perspective.  The rich dialogue that draws the mindset to the surface so it can be examined from multiple angles allowing for a more robust understanding. Perspective takes us far beyond the simple dichotomy of “I see it this way” and “you see it that way”.  It introduces the notion that between two ends of a scale, there is a spectrum of understanding.  And scattered all along this continuum are points of view that may not have been previously considered.  We tend to forget that our perspective is just that – ours.  Others have equally important perspectives – which of course is theirs.  It’s the coaching conversation that tends to give all of these points of view the airtime that they need.

If I’ve learned anything over the years in thousands of hours in coaching conversations, it is this:  all humans face the same issues, just in varying magnitudes and in different sequencing.  I know this to be true because at some point in every coaching conversation I will be asked:  "am I the only one that (fill in the blank)…?"  And the answer is always "no".  No, you’re not the only one.  And that response appears to be equally comforting and shocking.  I’m continually reminded that we are all far more alike than we are different. 

But what is not the same for all humans – and not by a long shot - is what it sounds like when we move through these conversations.  Each narrative is incredibly personal, every emotion is nuanced, and epiphanies are unique to that individual alone.  Every life has a distinctive soundtrack.  Every recording is vocalized from a singular vantage point. 

The conversation creates the place to reconcile a perspective.  And perspective matters, fortunately and unfortunately. 


Still, I am learning...  

Originally published as Guest Commentary in the Northwest Arkansas Business Journal (May 14, 2018)


I believe that life has a way of turning out the way it is supposed to.  “What is” is what’s supposed to be, otherwise it wouldn’t be. 

I never put myself in a state of anguish wondering what might have been…could have been…should have been. Rather I think about the lessons I’ve learned that have shaped me and placed me exactly where I’m supposed to be.  Doing the exact work I’m supposed to be doing. 

But if I could go back and tell myself the lessons that will define the shape of my life and identity - that would be incredible.   Not to mention incredibly comforting during the most trying of times.   

Be weird.  Find out who you are and do it on purpose.  And then let your weird light shine bright so the other weirdos know where to find you. 

Life’s unfair.  Spoiler alert – life is unfair.  And the sooner you make peace with that notion, the sooner life will open up for you in completely unexpected ways.   

Believe harder.  Society works really hard at making you believe you are continually coming up short.  That is a lie.  No one can make you feel (insert negative word) without your consent.  Don’t give away your personal power.

Embrace fears.  You have to make peace with your fears.  Walk towards what scares you and embrace it.  If it doesn’t challenge you, it won’t change you. 

Be curious.  People see things differently, and they see different things.  And you will too once you learn to replace judgment with curiosity. 

Step back.  The problem is not the problem.  The way you see the problem is the problem.  And once you’re reframed it, the impossible suddenly becomes possible.

Yes, and.  Positivity beats negatively hands down.  It’s also contagious, collaborative, and curious.  And the “and” part takes positivity to the highest level.  It’s a foundational principle of improvisation and it’s a foundational principle of a happy life.  

Stay connected.  Hang on to everyone’s phone number.  You’ll likely need them one day.  The universe operates on the power of human connection.   

Be kind.  There is a certain amount of civility that makes the world go round.  Good manners will open doors that the best education cannot. 

Favor simplicity.  Not everything is rocket science.  Plain, simple, elegant – that’s what works. 

Say no.  “No” can be a complete sentence.  Really.  You can only say yes to the right stuff by saying no to the wrong stuff.  Say it.  Mean it.  Own it.     

Move forward.  When bad things happen in your life, you can either let them destroy you, define you, or develop you.  Development is the only choice that moves you forward.

Stop worrying.  There are things that you can control.  There are things that you can influence.  But the rest – give it to the universe.  Karma is real. 

Lighten up.  When the punitive arbitrary rules you’ve created for your life no longer serve you well – change the rules.  Being serious and structured will serve you well.  So will being spontaneous and playing hooky.  Life is push and pull, so push and pull on life. 

Never done.  Stop trying to get it all done.  There is no place called “done”. 


(Still, I am learning)




Improve Thru Improv® | new experiences and fear



If there's one thing I know, it's that people are apprehensive about experiencing Applied Improvisation - at least initially. 

So I like what Seth Godin has to say about new experiences and fear:


"The only way to have the experience is to have the experience."






Recapturing the arts is vital in a STEM-focused world

Originally published as Guest Commentary in the Northwest Arkansas Business Journal (November 27, 2017)

We are inundated with data.  So the first business question we typically ask is a hard science question:  What am I looking at here?  And to answer that question requires a STEM thinker (a data science approach).  But the deeper question about what it means attempts to make sense of the data, and that takes more of a STEAM thinker (where the A stands for Art) to answer. 

STEM education refers to Science, Technology, Engineering, and Math.  STEAM simply makes room for Art in that educational mix.  Thought leaders such as Daniel Pink have boldly stated that “the MFA is the new MBA”, furthering the movement to recapture the value of the Arts in a STEM-focused world. 

Pink’s pivotal book (A Whole New Mind) suggested that forces in the world economy will shift society from left-brain thinking (linear, logical, analytical) to right-brain thinking (intuitive, creative, holistic) as the dominant thought pattern. In retrospect, that is precisely where we’ve landed today.  Think about the relevance of storytelling, our desire for product design, a resurgent demand for all things handcrafted, or how individuals are searching for greater meaning in their lives.

No longer are the arts being undervalued; quite the opposite.  And this merging of art thinking with STEM thinking is driving some unique business (integrated thinking) propositions.

Case in point – the marriage of business imperatives with Applied Improvisation* techniques.  The art of improvisation capitalizes on the creative process to help reframe how businesses interpret – and therefore leverage – their capabilities. 

The benefits of Applied Improvisation are far ranging, with the following merely a small sampling of how businesses are merging art with science. 

Using Applied Improvisation techniques helps businesses to: 

  • Increase divergent problem solving skills.  As the scene develops, and you have no idea what you will do next, you become much better at divergent problem solving (when there are multiple right answers).  Often times in business we get stuck looking for the one answer, when in fact there are several best answers. 
  • Drive creativity and innovation.  Innovation does best in environments where ideas simply flow.  There are moments of absolute brilliance that you stumble upon while you’re busy making theater out of thin air.  Embrace serendipity.
  • Understand exposure to risk.  There is no failure in improvisation, there’s just stuff that didn’t go the way you thought it would.  And that is brilliant!  Once the fear of failure is removed, so is the pressure. The stage provides a free pass to make mistakes with no repercussions.  Every error becomes endlessly diversified. 
  • Develop reframing skills.  Improvisation is the bridge – it allows for conversations about what is learned from the doing of the improvisation.  Reframing is a foundational skill because it is learning in one context that has application other, potentially unrelated, contexts.  In essence, learning drives learning. 
  • Challenge comfort zones People have comfort zones, and so do businesses.  By pushing through the scary unknown, the awkward vulnerability, and the fear of failure, you develop greater muscle around agility and thinking faster and faster on your feet. You become less fatigued by the constant demands of change.    
  • Drive team collaboration.  The improvisor’s goal is to make their scene partner look like a genius.  Every choice made on stage is for the betterment of the scene.  It is selfless.  Each actor begins to understand where and how they add value – they learn how to play to their strengths as well as the teams.  And businesses are only as strong as their teams.
  • Share compelling stories.  Storytelling is a nuanced art.  It is the packaged content of brand and voice.  And it is quite possibly the center of the human experience.  That is why organizations all over the world look to storytelling as the most promising tool for sustaining organizational culture. 

Art, science and business all seamlessly blended for the betterment of individuals, teams and organizations.  And to that I say, “full STEAM ahead”! 

* Explaining Applied Improvisation to the business world: There are principles and techniques (mindsets) that are used in improvisational theater that make it successful and very compelling to watch. Those same principles and techniques (mindsets) can be applied in non-theater settings to better understand human behavior, team dynamics, core leadership competencies, and business acumen.


Future-Proof Skill Building 

Originally published as Guest Commentary in the Northwest Arkansas Business Journal (October 30, 2017) Part 2 in a 2 part series. 

In a previous column I wrote that planning for the future is not a precise science.  There will always be, inevitability, trouble predicting the unknown.  With that in mind, I shared a list of personal skills that have wide-ranging application regardless of what the future may bring. 

Those skills were:  awareness, thinking, sense-making, margin, capacity, agility, fluidity, savviness, paradoxal, orchestration, human-ness, presence, smarts, simplification, hope. 

While constructing a skills list is an over-simplified process, acquiring future-proof skills is anything but.  Developing these skills forces us to think beyond the more traditional forms of education or development and seek to augment our knowledge base in more unique and all-encompassing ways. 

Two schools of thought are driving professional development through more creative and crossbred methods.    

First, a pivotal book by author Daniel Pink (A Whole New Mind) suggested that forces in the world economy would shift society from left-brain thinking to right-brain thinking as the dominant thought pattern.  Pink summed it up nicely as:  “The MFA is the new MBA”. 

That conclusion startled many who harked the MBA as the holy grail.  A bold six-word insight allowed for a reimagining of the skills necessary for the future of work – and where to get those skills.  In short, it seemed to grant legitimacy to those who would study in the arts and humanities, or maybe even to anyone who would endeavor to be educated outside of traditional learning platforms.  The future seemed to require less mastery in a single discipline and far greater exposure to a variety of thought streams.

Second was the assertion that skills could be developed in a blended approach – such as the rapid rise in the interest of Applied Improvisation, where business thinking is merged with the performing arts.  Harvard Professor John Kao believes “…improvisation is probably one of the two or three cardinal skills for businesses to learn in the future”.  This thinking opened the door to hybrid approaches where the best skill development was realized through a marriage of disciplines.  It seems building skills of the future requires less of a deep dive and more of an exploration. 

If the aforementioned skills are on your radar, consider development through one or more of these approaches:

  • Immersion in the arts and humanities.  Study religion, politics, history, philosophy, art, music, photography, film, design, dance, theater, literature, language, creative writing.  The idea is to see the world and your place in it through a different lens. 
  • Building divergent competencies.  Take a class in Psychology, Sociology, Anthropology, Criminal Justice, Law, Human Resources, Journalism, Corporate Social Responsibility.  Learn to debate the toughest questions from multiple angles. 
  • Increased knowledge in the realm of behavioral understanding.  Take a few different personality assessments.  Understanding how you tick allows you to put yourself in the place of most potential.  Understanding how others tick drives human connectivity. 
  • Change your reading habits.  Read biography and memoirs for perspective, history for insight, kids books for metaphors.  There is no monopoly on wisdom. 
  • Leave the city limits.  Travel.  Change time zones, change continents, change your comfort zone.  There are endless lessons from experiencing different cultures and learning to assimilate.  Learn to replace judgment with curiosity.
  • Participate.  Join boards, organizations, volunteer.  It’s when it gets personal that it gets your attention.  And attention fuels inner growth. 
  • Leverage the internet.  Listen to TedTalks, sign up for a MasterClass, enroll in a MOOC (massive open online course).  Technology is a big part of the future and it has arrived. 
  • Take a sabbatical. If the world is hyper vigilant, what will you notice when you experience a state of calmly idle?    
  • Brave an improvisation class.  It’s the ideal place to learn the powerful competence of reframing – where a learning in one context has application in another, potentially unrelated context.  Transference of learning has universal application. 

And here’s a new twist.  What we’re currently learning about brain neuroplasticity will change the future landscape of professional development even more.  Science has discovered that the brain changes throughout life, which suggests that we have the potential for continual rewiring.  It appears as if the future belongs to those who can learn, unlearn, and relearn. 

And that changes everything.  Again.